Bringing Romance Back Into The Bedroom

Has the spark petered in your boudoir?   Be honest now.  It’s okay and so easy to get back.  When the
majority of us are raising a family, working full time, taking on extra hours to pay down debt, feeling stressed and overwhelmed, and drained mentally or physically, it’s understandable.  Would you be surprised if I told you that romance and SEX is really, really good for what ails you?

It’s like exercising.  Just the thought of it leaves you thinking, “Ugh,” but once you get moving, those grim thoughts turn into happy ones.  The benefits of a romantic rendezvous are countless:  stronger immune system, lower blood pressure, strengthens your heart, cleans out the pipes, improves sleep and eases stress to name a few.  Did you know that simply touching, cuddling and hugging releases your own body’s natural “feel-good” hormones too?

So, here are some tips to set the stage and bring romance back into your bedroom.    
  • Declutter.  Nothing kills the mood than a messy bedroom. If you have carpet, sprinkle a floral powder likes roses or lavender and give it a good vacuum.  Dust and spray some Febreeze on the curtains to freshen the room.
  • Intrigue.  Tucking an inviting note into your lover’s pocket, taped onto the sun visor, sent in an email, or leaving a trail of discarded lingerie or rose pedals will get anyone’s pulse racing.
  • Create an Inviting Bed.  Change the sheets and sprinkle baby powder between the sheets, add some fluffy pillows and fold down the covers.
  • Induce Pleasurable Thoughts.  A montage of photos of the two of you grouped in romantic frames amongst the candlelight depicting happy moments you’ve shared sets the stage as well.
  • Candle light. Romance with candles.  Nothing creates an inviting allure more so than the soft, golden, flickering glow of candle light. You’ll find a multitude of romantic ideas at Romance By Candlelight.
  • Soft Music. Create a playlist of the best love songs ever … Michael Buble, Luther Vandross, the Righteous Brothers … endless, endless tunes available for free at your fingertips.  Keep that T.V. Music Channel off though … the light casted is too bright and will take away from the candles.
  • Massage.  Nothing is more sensual than oiled palms gliding over naked skin, creating a sexy and relaxing connection between you and your significant other. 


Build a Play Kitchen Easily

DIY Play Kitchen

Children LOVE to play "Make Believe" and what better gift for their birthday or special holiday than a kitchen play area that you build yourself.  Think of the joy on their little faces when you present them with this.  And guess what?  It's constructed from an old, recycled t.v. cabinet.  Don't have one laying around your house, check out your local second-hand store or, you'll surely find one at local  garage sales.

There are awesome step-by-instructions available  here at


Reading Nooks You Can Escape To

Reading Nooks to Escape To


Great Birthday Party Idea for Kids

Now here's the party of all parties!  Talk about economical, creative, interactive and fun ... this birthday party idea will be the hit of the neighborhood for children ages 3 - 8.  Just bring the show inside the garage if the weather doesn't cooperate.


31 Meatless Veggie Meals

Major kudos to Two Peas and Their Pod for putting this together.  Check out the awesome list of recipes they've made available for our "tummy" pleasure.  http://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/31-meatless-meals/


The Wrong Things To Say To Children

Think back for just a second.  Has there been that one split moment  ... that heat of the moment instance when you were sooo exasperated with your child(ren) that you just let loose with hurtful words? 

Words can cut deep, and sometimes, leave emotional scars that can cause damaging affects for a life time.  Children especially are so very sensitive, extremely naive, and vulnerable to our words and actions.  What you say, they believe with all their heart.  Hurtful phrases can trigger severe feelings of resentment and damage their self-esteem and self-worth well into their adult lives.

Here are some things you should really think twice about before you let them pass from your lips.  Remember, when dealing with children and young teens, it's what you say and how you say it that leaves a lasting impression.  Make your words count.

Can't You Try Harder ~ If you're not satisfied with their efforts during sports, dance class or school, they certainly won't be motivated any more and left discouraged.  "That was a wonderful effort.  I'm so proud of you.  How about maybe try it this way?"  Be encouraging ... show ... be supportive.

Do You Really Need To Eat That - Eat More ~  Might as well just say they have a weight problem.  If anything, this will foster a negative body image.  Even if you say they're picky or great eaters, young minds translate your meaning differently.

You Always/Never ~ Keep this phrasing out of your comments.  Instead try, "You seem to have some difficulty with that.  What can I do to help?  It's ok it didn't work.  Let mommy help show you how."

"Why Can't You Be More Like ~ Lord!  This will certainly make them harbor feelings of not being worthy and pit them against the rival you created in their mind.  Try to be encouraging in whatever they do.  Otherwise, it makes them feel like they'll never measure up, never be good at anything.

Don't Worry/Cry, It Will Be Fine ~ This dismisses their fears, their worry and how they are truly feeling.  They're still going to worry.  Ask them why they are worried.  Get them to talk about it.   Tell them you understand and there for them.  Let them know it may be scary because it's new but it might surprise them and be a lot of fun.  Let them know they need to at least try and you'll be there if it doesn't work out.

Do As I Say/Because I Told You So ~ Might as well just hit them over the head.  You aren't giving them a chance to figure things out for themselves and making the right decision with just dictating.  You'll make them harbor feelings of defiance and what they think doesn't matter.  If for example they want to play/hang out with friends and not go visit Gramma with you try, "Gramma loves and misses you and it's important we spend time with her because she doesn't see you often."

Just Let Me Do It ~ When your child volunteers and wants to help, don't slap them down if they don't do it right.  "That was great sweetie!  Let me show you another cool way."