Words can cut deep, and sometimes, leave emotional scars that can cause damaging affects for a life time. Children especially are so very sensitive, extremely naive, and vulnerable to our words and actions. What you say, they believe with all their heart. Hurtful phrases can trigger severe feelings of resentment and damage their self-esteem and self-worth well into their adult lives.
Here are some things you should really think twice about before you let them pass from your lips. Remember, when dealing with children and young teens, it's what you say and how you say it that leaves a lasting impression. Make your words count.
Can't You Try Harder ~ If you're not satisfied with their efforts during sports, dance class or school, they certainly won't be motivated any more and left discouraged. "That was a wonderful effort. I'm so proud of you. How about maybe try it this way?" Be encouraging ... show ... be supportive.
Do You Really Need To Eat That - Eat More ~ Might as well just say they have a weight problem. If anything, this will foster a negative body image. Even if you say they're picky or great eaters, young minds translate your meaning differently.
You Always/Never ~ Keep this phrasing out of your comments. Instead try, "You seem to have some difficulty with that. What can I do to help? It's ok it didn't work. Let mommy help show you how."
"Why Can't You Be More Like ~ Lord! This will certainly make them harbor feelings of not being worthy and pit them against the rival you created in their mind. Try to be encouraging in whatever they do. Otherwise, it makes them feel like they'll never measure up, never be good at anything.
Don't Worry/Cry, It Will Be Fine ~ This dismisses their fears, their worry and how they are truly feeling. They're still going to worry. Ask them why they are worried. Get them to talk about it. Tell them you understand and there for them. Let them know it may be scary because it's new but it might surprise them and be a lot of fun. Let them know they need to at least try and you'll be there if it doesn't work out.
Do As I Say/Because I Told You So ~ Might as well just hit them over the head. You aren't giving them a chance to figure things out for themselves and making the right decision with just dictating. You'll make them harbor feelings of defiance and what they think doesn't matter. If for example they want to play/hang out with friends and not go visit Gramma with you try, "Gramma loves and misses you and it's important we spend time with her because she doesn't see you often."
Just Let Me Do It ~ When your child volunteers and wants to help, don't slap them down if they don't do it right. "That was great sweetie! Let me show you another cool way."
|A Kiss Every Day Matters|
For the most part, his marriage was what his friends considered exceptional, but to him, there was something terribly missing. He didn't have that "7 Year Itch." He hadn't tired of the woman he was faithful to. The passion somehow had dissipated, and he didn't quite know why.
One day, he decided to touch upon the subject of marriage with his dad. If anyone had a blissful relationship, his parent's bond was the greatest of examples. Even after 30 years, they still walked holding hands and smiled at each other like two lovesick puppies.
So he asked his dad, "What's your secret? How is your marriage to mom so strong, while so many are failing?"
His father removed his wristwatch, turned it around so the inscription showed, and handed it to his son. There it read, "15 seconds everyday ~ no less."
"I got this watch from my father," his father replied, "and now I'm passing it on to you. Kiss her like you really, really mean it for 15 seconds every day. No less. Come back to me in a month and tell me if that doesn't make a difference."
Now tell me ladies, is that not the best medicine ever for bringing passion back into a relationship? Read this story to your partner and let us know if the spark was reignited.
I found this story on TimeWarpWife.com
|Paint your own glasses to stand out at parties.|
Painting your own glasses is really quite simple and the folks over at http://www.iheartnaptime.net/diy-painted-glassware/ did a beautiful job breaking it down step-by-step for you to follow. I got really excited when I saw this as I knew so many of you would truly enjoy trying it out for yourselves.
You can either find a chalkboard fit to size, or, there's chalkboard paint available at Home Depot, Lowe's, and any store that carries Benjamin Moore Paint for like under $15.
Here are some helpful hints I found at Benjamin Moore's website:
Step #1: Prepare the Surface
Once you've selected the space for your chalkboard, clean the surface completely and repair any protruding nails or other imperfections. Some surfaces may require a primer or additional preparation:
- If an all-purpose primer is needed, we recommend using Fresh Start® High-Hiding All Purpose Primer (046).
- When applying chalkboard paint over plastic, we recommend priming with Insl-x® STIX® Bonding Primer (SXA 110) for best results.
- Metal surfaces should be cleaned with Super Spec HP® Oil & Grease Emulsifier (P83) before applying chalkboard paint.
- Shiny metal surfaces should be lightly sanded before the chalkboard paint is applied.
Use painter's tape to mark off a space for your chalkboard.
Step #3: Apply the Chalkboard Paint
Using a brush or roller, apply the chalkboard paint within the taped-off area. For best results, use a Benjamin Moore custom-blended nylon/polyester brush or short-nap roller.
Step #4: Ensure Lasting Durability
For best results, allow the painted area to cure for 3 days before using it as a chalkboard. Then, prior to initial use, rub the entire surface with a piece of white chalk.
- For erasing, we recommend using a clean, damp cloth or paper towel. We do not recommend using a chalkboard eraser.
- Because of the additives used in some varieties of chalk, which can leave a residue when erased, we recommend using light-colored chalk designed for use on chalkboards.
- Use decorative molding or a colorful painted border to give your chalkboard area an extra personal touch.
- Attach a ledge at the bottom of the painted space to hold your chalk.
- In children's rooms, be sure to make your chalkboard low and large enough so that younger children can reach it and have ample space to write or draw.
- In your office or study, paint a chalkboard calendar with squares for dates. Then update your schedule whenever you like.
- Try a chalkboard in the kitchen for shopping lists, phone messages, and easy recipe reference.
- Think beyond your walls—use chalkboard paint on a child's table, flower pots, or colorful storage boxes.
|Flower Planters & Window Boxes|
Stop on over and stay a spell at http://www.pinterest.com/thegirlzkorner/planters-window-boxes/