Little Black Dress

When Audrey Hepburn accepted the lead role in Breakfast at Tiffany's in 1961, you can bet she did not know then she would be setting a fashion trend that would play a major influence forty years later. She may have rejuvenated its fame but let us not forget who the true credit goes to.

Fashion Designer, Coco Chanel, created the alluring, chic style in 1926. It was originally named the "Ford" dress by American Vogue because it mimicked Henry Ford's Model T … it was an instant craze, widely available and, only available in black. During the twenties, black was synonymous with mourning. As the new Jazz age took center stage, Chanel's black dress with its seductive sleekness took on a different role for women … that of liberation and independence.

To this very day women have an unexplainable adoration for the simple design which magically flatters body types of every variation. It does not matter if you pay thirty dollars or, three hundred for it because the little black dress has a way of making you look and feel like a million dollar baby. All you have to do is add a simple pair of faux or, real pearls, custom jewelry and let us not forget, the perfect black pump or, stiletto heels … whichever you prefer.

The little black dress is simplicity and elegance all rolled into one. It survived the restrictions of war in the 40's and 50's, the madness of the disco era, punk movement of the early 90's and resurged with tremendous popularity when four "simply fab" ladies strutted their stuff in the top hit show Sex and the City.Body shape does not matter. How much you can afford does not matter. Fashion sense does not matter.

And why, you ask? Because the little black dress is magical enough to suit any need.

You Lost Him At Hello

What do you think shuts a man down shortly after being together a while? Do you rack your brain mulling over whether it was something you said or, did? When it goes awry, not knowing leaves you feeling rejected, not appreciated, and misunderstood.

We already know that men and women are wired differently. The struggle clearly lies in not knowing how to delicately relay the feelings you are having without setting off alarms that makes him bolt like a rooster in a small confining pen.

Does the cosmos hold a secret as to what makes a man want to listen, open up about his feelings and truly understand a woman? NOPE. Men are not like windows and, eight times out of ten, will not communicate the way you would like and need them to. And because of this, we talk even more, over-compensate, nurture and love him beyond … beyond and, he just keeps locking that dang window.

What is the answer?

We freak out because men do not understand us. But, it could be we just don't get them. Trying to get a man to know/show how he feels and what he wants in a relationship before he even had a chance to enjoy the great connection you just discovered together is like putting a nail in a coffin. We all do it unconsciously because it's what girls do. How you share what you feel and think about him while you are together will make a big difference.

What it all boils down to is you do something to kill that intense attraction that drew him to you in the first place. This leads him to shut down and begin to question whether you are the right woman he wants to be with.

I know … right now you are saying, "No I don't!" Answer this question honestly though.

Do you talk, feel, and act with a man you think "is the one" like you are already in a committed relationship with him - before he has even developed those feelings himself?

When your expectations of him are the kind a woman who is in an actual long-term committed relationship IS having, and he is not there yet - it is a deal killer for any man. Women go into autopilot and fantasize straight out of the gate when the right man comes along, especially when the connection is great, the chemistry is sizzling, and as time goes by you fall into a nice groove of spending time together. Women rationalize they are already a couple. They want to play house right away and envision a Cinderella wedding when commitment to the man in their life is just a word found in Webster's.

Having him do the pursuing and asking for a more serious relationship will happen when you project yourself as a woman who is independent, full of life, not expecting commitment and not acting like the needy, clingy type, already setting up home like a married couple and making plans way too far into the future.